written by ethan

what do you desire?

What makes you itch?

What sort of a situation would you like?

Students often come to me and say, well, “we’re getting out of college and we have the faintest idea what we want to do.” So I always ask the question:

what would you like to do if money were no object?

How would you really enjoy spending your life?

Well, it’s so amazing as a result of our kind of educational system, crowds of students say well, we’d like to be painters, we’d like to be poets, we’d like to be writers, but as everybody knows you can’t earn any money that way. Or another person says well, I’d like to live an out-of-doors life and ride horses. I said you want to teach in a riding school? Let’s go through with it. What do you want to do?

When we finally got down to something, which the individual says he really wants to do, I will say to him

you do that. and forget the money.

because, if you say that getting the money is the most important thing, you will spend your life completely wasting your time.

You’ll be doing things you don’t like doing in order to go on living, that is to go on doing things you don’t like doing, which is stupid.

Better to have a short life that is full of what you like doing than a long life spent in a miserable way.

And after all, if you do really like what you’re doing, it doesn’t matter what it is, you can eventually become a master of it. The only way to become a master of something is to be really with it. And then you’ll be able to get a good fee for whatever it is. So don’t worry too much.

That’s everybody is – somebody is interested in everything, anything you can be interested in, you will find others that will too. But it’s absolutely stupid to spend your time doing things you don’t like.

And so, therefore, it’s so important to consider this question:

What do I desire?

these words from alan watts inspired me to consider what i really wanted out of life. i was surprised to find that, at the time, i had absolutely no idea. and that’s a scary thought.

and the scarier thought was that i didn’t even know where to begin figuring out what i wanted. you would think that, at thirty years old (at the time) having graduated law school, several years into a successful practice at a prestigious law firm, with a leadership role in the community and nice salary – you’d think i’d have an idea what made me happy and how i’d really like to spend my life. well, i didn’t. 

but i do now. and through this blog, i will share with you my experience and things that helped me along the way. don’t have time to wait? i understand. start here.